Interpersonal Skills



Small Talk is a term used to denote the friendly conversation people have on general topics such as weather or traffic that may open up ways to knowing each other better and act as an icebreaker. Experts believe small talk is an art and it can lead to many frank and detailed discussions even in business. Walking up to a stranger and starting a conversation might not be as easy as said for a lot of people. This problem is faced by most young sales-people and business managers. Many people admit felling difficulty in opening up a conversation.

Here are the different stages of a pleasant small talk that leads to two people sharing details: 

Initiation – This is the initial part where the people talk about topics such as the weather, traffic or the busy schedule, etc. This helps in determining the rest of the conversation and whether the person is in a mood for conversation or is he avoiding any conversation.

Knowing each other – Once you have initiated the conversation, the next part is knowing each other. This is the part where they introduce each other and give details about their name, job, etc.

Sharing Opinion – This is the next stage where you can move the discussion towards more weighty topics like philosophy, politics or business. This helps in determining each other’s interests and finding common interests to relate to each other. Here both the people listen to each other and values the opinion of each other. It is important to show genuine interest in what the other person is speaking about and value his/her opinion.

Expressing Thoughts – In the end, you reach the stage where both fell comfortable enough with each other to share intimate details. Once you have reached this stage, you can say that you have establishes a certain bond with your companion and have honed some skill in small talks.

Different people have different issues that may prevent them from initiating a conversation with someone. The first step to improve your interpersonal skills is to address this issue. These issues can be simple shyness or discomfort to lack of content and confidence for a conversation. Understanding your reason for hesitation is necessary to understand and improve on your area of concern. It necessary for you to be really involved and interested in the conversation to start a conversation and have a pleasant conversation over a long time. This requires you to have a genuine interest in meeting and knowing people. It will help if you have a small collection of conversation starters like witty lines and introductory likes that can suit any occasion. You can get the other person in a conversational mood using simple gestures such as smiling and waiting for a smile in return, commenting on a shared interest or on something nearby. Being relaxed while initiating a conversation will help you to sound natural and the other person will be more interested in listening to you.