Think yourself perfect
Feeling like nothing on earth?? Well, we have got some news for you! Happiness is not really about having a perfect bod and loads of cash(Though that can help!), But everything to do with your personal fee-good factor. Here are 10 quick steps to an instant attitude makeover.
1. DON’T PUT HAPPINESS ON HOLD
IF you find yourself saying, “I’ll be happy when I’ve lost weight” or “ My life will be perfect when I get the job/man/university/place”, you’re putting your happiness in the future. Stop whingeing! List the experiences you want to have in your lifetime. Imagine the world is going to end next month-which ones could you have? Choose (a least) one and do it-now!
2. BREATHE DEEPLY THROUGH YOUR NOSE
Yes, honestly. Apparently this really helps to cheer you up because it cools the blood before it enters the brain. This makes for feel-good changes in the brain cells that regulate your moods. Also, you breathe more deeply, which calms you down and gives you a feeling of well being. Plus, your levels of the feel-good brain chemical, serotonin may rise, giving you a buzz. Phew!
3. WATCH YOUR LANGUAGE
If you find yourself saying “ I can’t,” or “It’s not important,” or “Maybe” or “I’m hopeless” all the time, stop! Assertive people feel less internal anger, and are thus happier. So use phrases such as “think, “ “We could” and “How do you feel?” instead. Remember, assertive doesn’t mean aggressive.
4. GO WITH YOUR JOY
Search your memory for times in your childhood when you felt most happy. What were you doing then -painting? Dancing? Loving your pet? Whatever. Your must give top priority in your life to either taking up that activity again or doing something else that recreates that deeply happy feeling. So take a joyride.
5. WHIFF YOURSELF OUT OF A BAD MOOD
Emotions are massively influenced by your sense of smell. Scents that’ll make you feel good include hot baked bread, ground roasted coffee, freshly laundered clothes, oranges and the essential oils of rose, neroli and jasmine. Spraying your favourite perfume throughout the day will give you a boost, too – it’ll remind you of good times associated with it.
6. GRAB SOME PSYCHIC PROTECTION
If you’ve ever felt uncomfortable or threatened in a situation, this mind technique is for you. William Bloom, author of ‘Psychic Protection’, suggests you breathe deeply and imagine yourself inside a transparent bubble that allows good energies to enter, but one that protects you from any negativity. Another good image to visualize is a magic protective cloak.
7. SING, SING, and SING!
Okay, so you might not be Lata Mangeshkar, but it will make you feel brilliant. When you sing you draw air inside you, which helps to release loads of neurochemicals in you brain. This gives you a buzz. Humming will build up your voice, not to mention your confidence. And even if you’re bad at the crooning, it’ll certainly make you laugh, won’t it? Go grab that banana microphone.
8. TAKE RISKS
Go to an event you wouldn’t usually go to, try a sport that scares you. If something’s holding you back, analyzing it on the roof of a building might not be such a brilliant idea, but wake boarding or a formal do, that’s not so scary, is it? Once you face an irrational fear, square on, it dissolves. If you’re scared, let others know. But at the end of the day, just go for it.
9. GET YOURSELF AN AFFIRMATION
This is a short, life-enhancing motto but it works. Your affirmation should be something you want to be true, said as if it were true already. If you want to be more outgoing, say, “I feel more self-confident every time I encounter new people”. Pen down your affirmation and repeat it to yourself frequently…. It will bring results. Honest.
10. IMAGINE YOURSELF “PERFECT”
Experts reckon we’re born with only two fears – of loud noises and falling. All other fears come later. A hypnotist reckons that a person’s poor self-confidence often stems from a bad experience, or a negative thought pattern, which attaches itself to new situations. The good news is that we can teach ourselves to think positive. For example, imagine your ideal self, one who is mentally and physically happy. Now imagine yourself stepping into this “perfect” person. Mentally go through what it’s like to be her, to think her thoughts and to what she does. Repeat this every day for three weeks for a real boost. It works, wonder!