4 Techniques of anger management
Losing one’s temper is probably the worst thing that happens frequently to everyone, but there are some for whom it’s more than just a casual hindrance in their normal routine.
There are enough things in the world that can infuriate even the calmest of people, but there are some who are poorly equipped in dealing with it, and tend to lash out furiously in an attempt to deal with their rage.
There is no situation where this is a good thing, and can damage reputations and character to such a point that careers, relationships and other intricate aspects of life. So, read on for some simple techniques you can use to control your temper even in the wildest of frenzies.
Identify trigger symptoms
This is a fairly easy thing to do, and while not really a solution as such, recognizing that you’re about to lose your cool goes a long way in practicing remedies. Most often than not, anger is impulsive, and is often directed without you barely realizing it.
Recognizing that you’ve snapped yet again halfway into screaming at someone is not going to help the situation, but if you’re someone who is prone to frequent bursts of temper, you can train yourself to watch out for typical warning signs that indicate implosion, ranging from mild knots in the stomach or a temptation to let loose.
Remind yourself constantly of the consequences
Once you’ve learnt to identify impending anger, you can start trying to control it.
The basic way to start is to keep constantly reminding yourself of the inevitable damage flying into a rage can cause. Whether you’re about to snap at a random stranger or a close friend, no good can ever come out of it in any way.
There are tons of better ways to communicate displeasure that doesn’t cause irreparable harm to both body and mind.
At best, you may end up ruining your mood for the whole day.
At worst, you could end up seriously throwing a good relationship beyond any repair. However, trying to pretend that you’re not furious and bottling up your feelings might result in you subconsciously resorting to other ways to get back at the person who was the source of your anger, or even eventually make you a bitter cynic over time. More on this in the next point.
Look for alternate ways to let off steam
While it’s true that the popularly used argument of the necessity to let off steam is sometimes dismissed as a myth, it actually makes a lot of sense. Bottling up your frustrations is as unhealthy as taking it out on someone publicly, and definitely needs some release. Harboring unresolved frustration could lead to stress, or worse, directing your anger at someone who really doesn’t deserve to be in the firing line.
You can choose to take little breaks throughout the day to calm yourself. You can even try to logically reason out the cause of your anger in your mind, and then confront the person behind it with a cogent argument. Timeouts can really help, especially when coupled with an activity that you inherently enjoy doing. Watch a funny video, or listen to a soothing song. Anything that helps you calm down and take stock of the situation is a good thing.
Don’t dismiss therapy
Yes, it’s not what anyone wants to hear but knowing when an expert is required is essential. So, you’ve tried every calming technique out there on the internet, you’ve tried approaching anger management with a sense of humor and a calm demeanor. But sometimes, niggling reasons that cause a person to lose their temper are very niche, and requires professional help to identify.
- Never avoid seeking this as a last resort before it’s too late. If you are conscious about seeing an expert, there are a lot of anger management groups out there that seek to unite like-minded people in your local neighborhood.
- Talking to people with similar problems and helping each other out on a frequent basis can be surprisingly beneficial, so do not be hesitant to explore these options if nothing else works.